Friday, July 11, 2008

My identity

A walk on a promenade is supposed to be innocent..allowing your mind to free float and not think too much. A walk is just that..a walk..you exercise your legs and relax maaro after lunch. I was alone and walking towards the NCPA promenade….got swept away with the beauty of the sea and the seascape to be honest. My mind was relaxed and happy. I crossed the road and continued walking.

This man, whom I will never see for the rest of my life, commented on my boobs. I wasn’t sure if he did or not and as always prefer ignoring bullshit thrown in my face like. I am astounded that this man standing in one of the busiest business districts of Mumbai, wearing the clothes of a driver had the audacity to say something. I should then slap myself because I am presuming and assuming on class boundaries which don’t mean much anyways.

Women in this part of town are corporate women, each day I pass girls/women wandering around in corporate attire or not, talking the talk and walking the walk. So where do men get off treating women as nothing more than sexual objects? All this sometimes feels like bullshit and that man contributed to making me feel that the size of my boobs defined me. I was angered at the notion. I was sooooo tempted to make an equally crude remark back at him but I desisted first because I wasn’t sure if it was aimed at me and second because I thought of the consequences of my saying something.

Last Sunday, I and my sister ran away from this strange man who was staring at us intently. My sister later said that we should have given it to him with the umbrella that she was holding and in retrospect I was like fucking hell, we should have definitely done that.

I know who I am and what I represent. I think I speak for most women who are confident and walk where men have walked before boldly. It is society at large that tends to forget…

6 comments:

Akshay said...

You should have given it to him babes. Actually you should have picked up a stone and thrown at his head or his car..either one breaking would have been enough. He would probably never do anything like this to anyone ever again.

Alltough said...

I would disagree with Akshay. Violence is not the answer. I think it is simply not worth it. To actually spend your energy on a man whose mind is so twisted.

dharmabum said...

they're coming down hard on eve teasing here in madras - there are notices in public places and it is officially a crime now.

Akshay said...

Alltough, the guy needs to be taught a lesson. Today it was Kits, tomorrow it could be any body else.

Comfortably Numb said...

I know...these perverts would never stop until and unless some of them are raped by mad goats!

Cheers!

Sharninder said...

Violence is definitely the answer ! And the only punishment the man should have been given is death, or some such thing. The point is most men are Jerks, and people like this particular jerk should be taught a lesson anyway. Although, I wouldn't have advised kits to fight it out herself, a police guy perhaps would have helped !! On second thoughts, I've heard you can't even trust police guys these days in Mumbai !